I think the stars are in certain alignment and the sun is arguing with the moon...and that has forced my little ole blog to come under fire from the left, the right, above, and below. Bang, bang, bang.
First, let me just stop shaking my head and laughing because, really? My blog? Is it possible that every single person I know (except a handful of people and my husband) has had or have some sort of problem with what I write here?
Sigh.
Are you serious, people? Why?
Look, I write a blog because I love to write. It is my life. It is my dream (not the blog, the writing). It is my platform, albeit inconsequential. It is my voice...good, bad, ugly, and everything in between. But, aren't we all allowed to speak our minds in whatever "format" you happen to enjoy? Good lord, it makes the world go round otherwise we would just be a bunch of robots!
I recently had a conversation with my mother who expressed (mild) horror over what I write and told me that she has had several people tell her likewise. Honestly, I don't get the problem. I told my mother...if people don't want to read my blog, guess what? DON'T CLICK ON IT. I mean, seriously, it is THAT easy! Stop reading if I bug you. If you think I share too much, too little, too awful, too whatever then STOP READING. Easy peasy.
I'm kinda tired of defending why I do this (makes me wonder if other people who blog take such friggin heat over what they say!) I'm tired of trying to defend my desire to write and my desire to write on a blog and defend each and every blog post I do.
I had a "conversation" with a once very good friend a week or so ago who read me the riot act dissecting all the areas in which I wrote topics that she felt I was personally writing only about her.
Okay, God, this is exhausting.
I will tell you what I told her: THE THINGS I WRITE ON MY BLOG HERE ARE ABOUT ME!! MY VIEWS, MY OPINIONS, MY EMOTIONS, MY LIFE. Period. If there is anything more than a passing coincidence, perhaps it is just that: a coincidence. If you feel judged by something I am saying, folks, that is about you, not me.
Here is my process. I hear something like, someone mentions how they hate to read and a light bulb flashes in my head and I write it down in my blog notebook to discuss how I feel about people who truly don't enjoy books, which is so different than how I feel. No judgement, just MY OPINIONS. Then, I might overhear someone complain about the high price of gas and that might prompt me to write about a time when I remember when I began driving and gas was around eighty cents. AGAIN, ABOUT ME. I never know what I hear, what conversation, what tidbit will spark a possible blog post. I have two notebooks and a bulging folder full of these types of minor and insignificant blog topics. However, if you happen to be someone who hates to read you can't possibly take it personally that I am writing only to (and about) you to what? Sway you into the dark side of reading? Come on. We ALL HAVE DIFFERENT OPINIONS and DIFFERENT VIEWS.
Basically, the blog posts are developed based around my impression, my opinion, my thoughts on any subject. Sometimes it appears that I am referring to ONE person but I will say this, unless I specify in a post about a certain person or a very specific event, it is NEVER about ONE PERSON. Never. I'll give you an example. My "friend" complained about a blog post I did regarding people who are "too busy" shuffling kids to five different activities and a calendar that doesn't have any white space. She felt that blog post was about her and only her. This is such a great example because: a) as i told her, I know only one other person besides myself that wouldn't fall into the "too busy" category. That post was probably triggered (who remembers anymore) by overhearing someone who is shuffling her kids everywhere and lives with a calendar on her passenger seat and constant glances at her watch. Then, it reminded me of, well, half the people I know (more or less)! And, voila, a blog post about how I FEEL over the topic of being too busy. b) I also told her that if she was reading that much into my blog post then perhaps you feel down deep that you are too busy and therefore I hit a little too close to the nail on the head.
I have also been slapped (figuratively) over and over about how personal I get on my blog. Again, I write how I feel, sometimes happy, sometimes sad, sometimes in between but what I try to always be is: REAL. That is what I aim for. Believe me, I'm not a ten year old who has absolutely no clue what she is saying. I delete a whole hellofalot of sentences that never get published because I feel I personally crossed whatever the line may be. Sometimes the nail hits close, I get that, but I certainly never aim to hurt anyone.
Words are powerful and that is my draw. I love that. I love being able to use this blog sometimes as an outlet. Instead of chewing out my neighbor over wrongly accusing my daughter of doing something she would never do...I write about it here and I vent and I let it go. If you don't want to hear me vent, don't read.
Everyone has a different reason for writing...books, blogs, newspaper articles, etc. And, everyone has a different reason for reading. If this isn't your thing, by all means don't click on my blog.
One more request: please stop going to my mother if you have problems with my blog/writing. I know you mean well (whoever you all are, I don't know because she wouldn't say) and maybe it is just harmless conversation but I am 45 years old and I hate to sound harsh here but she is not going to be able to do anything about what I write, on my blog or otherwise.
Whew. I hope that cleared a few things up.
After all that I hope that if you are here and you do enjoy (whether you agree or disagree, both is fine!) my blog and you are a regular reader, THANK YOU! I appreciate all my readers that click on my wittle blog for the sole purpose of reading the words I write.